Quick Quiz:
- Do you believe polygamy should be legal?
- Do you believe polygamists should be allowed to vote, own land, and hold a job?
And one last question:
3. Do you believe it is hypocritical and inconsistent to have different answers to (1) and (2)?
I would venture that the answers to (1) would be mostly 'no', and to (2) mostly 'yes'. And, per (3), that most of those people with differing answers won't think it is inconsistent or hypocritical to think so. Just because you don't support the legalization of certain lifestyle choices of polygamists (or marijuana smokers, for example) doesn't mean you support taking away basic rights from them such as voting and having a job.
Believing that polygamists are human, deserve basic human dignity and decency, and the same rights as everyone else doesn't mean polygamy needs to be legal. Believing faithful Christians are human, deserve basic human dignity and decency, and the same right as everyone else doesn't mean prayer in public schools needs to be legal.
And, obviously, there shouldn't be a contradiction between thinking that a man or woman shouldn't be fired from a job for being gay, but that gay marriage doesn't need to be legal.
The biggest issue with the "equal rights" mantra in regards to gay marriage is that it doesn't stand up to analysis. What right do individuals lose by identifying themselves as gay? Who is not equal to who, here?
Not being able to vote because you're black? A violation of equal rights, because you would be able to vote if you were white.
Fired from a job for being gay? A violation of equal rights, because if you were straight, you'd still have the job.
Not having the ability to enter into an officially recognized same-sex relationship? Well, who's not equal to who, here? Sorry, this is NOT a violation of equal rights, because there isn't a distinction being made between those who are gay and those who aren't.
Current federal statutes involving marriage allow each individual to marry one person of the opposite gender who is 18 or older (lower with parental permission), not directly related to you and not currently married to anyone else. And a person's 'rights' involving who they can marry and who they can't does not change based on sexual orientation--someone outs himself as gay tomorrow, and their marriage options remain exactly the same.
Arguing that gays should have the same rights as everyone else is not the same thing as arguing that same-sex relationships should be legally recognized. It's a perfectly legitimate position for someone to argue that federal law should recognize same-sex relationships to the exact same extent as opposite-sex relationships...just not on an 'equal rights' basis.
Relationships don't have "rights"--they are abstract entities that are arbitrarily defined. Only people have rights, and without a clear example of how a person's rights change when their declared sexual orientiation changes, the equal rights argument falls flat.
(An equal rights violation would be if I was gay and the state declared my current marriage to my wife to be voided--saying that gay men do not have the right to be married to a woman anyway, even if they want to, whereas a straight man could...)
The recent announcement by the Church that it supports an non-discrimination ordinance in regards to gays holding jobs and finding living arrangements is smart and proper on a number of levels.
First, it is the correct and moral decision. There is no reason--regardless of your opinion of homosexuality's sinfulness--that a gay man or woman should be fired from their job, or blocked from renting an apartment due to their sexual orientation. Most people, myself included, don't support discrimination based on sexual orientation at all. (For the record, I support gay adoptions, too--although that's an issue for another day...)
But, secondly, it makes the distinction between genuine equal rights issues involving gays, and 'fake' ones such as gay marriage. It (attempts to) make the case that they are different entities altogether, and that support for one without supporting the other is not an inherently inconsistent position.
Previously, attempts to suggest that gay marriage was not an equal rights issue fell on deaf ears because many gay marriage opponents did not support true equal rights for gays in non-marriage-related areas anyway. It would have been easy for the Church to oppose non-discrimination ordinances with the logic that a supportive position would simply be viewed as an implicit admission that its stand against gay marriage was wrong, and increase--rather than decrease--pressure to change. (Naturally, many gay marriage supporters have taken this interpretation already, insisting that it *is* an inconsistent position to support one and not the other...).
Personally, I think it's admirable that the Church took this position anyway--going against the arch-conservative view and admitting that gays are discriminated against in some areas of society now, and that in principle this is wrong.
Plus, while in the short term this will be viewed as a "victory" by the pro-gay-marriage side, and a sign of 'weakness' in the Church, in the long term I think this will be helpful in the gay marriage debate by eliminating an obvious cudgel for the pro-gay-marriage side to beat the anti-gay-marriage side with--that no longer will the pro- side be automatically able to conflate job discrimination and other equal rights issues with gay marriage since the Church has drawn a line between them and recognized that they are different. How this affects the gay marriage in the debate in the long run remains to be seen, but I support the fact that non-discrimination should be the norm and that the Church has taken a (small) stand in this matter.